The Active Baby Part-II

The active child may have to develop special methods of slowing herself down- sucking on her hand or thumb, for instance- before she is able to focus her attention on an object or person near by.

Active babies tend to have fussy periods before each nap and before bedtime, and they frequently resist their parent’s attempts to soothe them by walking or rocking. They are usually light sleepers, rousing often during the night to whimper and move around in the crib, though most often they do fall back to sleep on their own. As the parents of an active  baby  you may spend much of your day simply trying to keep up with your infant, who will demand a great deal of attention. You may feel guilty about not being able to comfort her during fussy times, and even become desperate in your attempts to do so.

If so, rest assured that the best you can usually do with an active baby is to maintain your patience, try to keep stimulation at a level she can manage, and learn to enjoy her free wheeling approach to life. It can be tense and exhausting, but also exhilarating, to witness the vitality of your energetic child.

The Active Baby Part-I

A whirlwind of activity frequently surrounds the active baby. This infant tends to be restless and easily distracted; her attention shifts rapidly from one object or activity to another. Like the quiet baby, the active child can be a lesson in patience for even the most tolerant of parents.

An active baby may or may not adhere to a regular feeding schedule, but when she is hungry you will know it from her loud lusty cries, her crying is as intense as the rest of her. This infant cannot easily soother herself, even for the few minutes she must wait while you prepare to nurse her. An active child usually eats quickly and with gusto, but attention may be easily diverted by other activities taking place in the room where she is feeding.

When an active child is awake, her arms and legs are usually cycling like windmills, during play with parents or siblings, she smiles, gurgles, twists and kicks in response. But she also becomes easily overwrought by too much stimulation, and tears may come on with lightning speed. Her constant physical activity in fact, can prevent this infant from making calm observations of sights and sounds as quieter babies do.

The Quiet Baby Part-II

This child does not usually fuss in the evenings, but tends to wake up for a night feeding beyond the point when most infants are sleeping through the night. This may be due to the child’s lack of motor activity during the day; he is not sufficiently tired to sleep all through the night. Eventually, however, by lengthen the time between feedings; you should be able to change this pattern.

Slow responses or a low level of feedback from an infant can be disappointing and discouraging for parents, who may blame themselves for their child seems lack of progress. They assume that their child doesn’t really need them- but actually the opposite is true. Quite children need even more attention from parents to help stimulate their development. The key is to gear the stimulation to the child’s level of coping with it. Ultimately you will find that a quiet baby can be as rewarding to rise as an outgoing child. More patience may be required to draw him out, but it is satisfying to know that each step he takes, each mile stone he achieves is one you have reached together.

The Quiet Baby Part-I

Quiet Babies are generally wide eyed, reticent children who approach life cautiously. They need time to warm up to new places, new people and new experiences. In raising a child with this temperament, you will need to be patient and encouraging as your baby adapts to changing situations at his own pace. A quiet baby sleeps much of the time but will usually wake at regular intervals for feeding. He may lie quietly in his crib waiting for you to come to him or he may whimper or cry softly to relay his hunger. The quiet baby relishes feeding, nursing slowly and steadily, and at times, for an excessive period. This tendency to suck too long may cause the infant to spit up.

During the alert period after eating, the quiet baby may be relatively inactive, but he is keenly observing the things around him. He concentrates on watching each figure constituting his mobile, and stares intently at his fingers as he moves them toward his mouth. If interrupted by parents or siblings for gentle play, the infant may smile and respond. But stimulation can quickly become overwhelming for a quiet baby, and when it does he will retreat, turning away to block out the intrusion.

The average baby

The parents of an average baby will consider themselves luck indeed. This baby typically tunes in with interest and pleasure to the world around her and often welcomes new experiences. Adhering to a fairly regular feeding schedule, the average baby will usually begin to whimper and stir in her crib about half an hour before her accustomed mealtime; gradually she will build up to a strong  cry to announce her hunger. This baby most often nurses quietly and steadily. When she has finished sucking and feels full and content, she is usually awake and quite alert, If placed in her crib or propped in a sitting position, the infant will observe her surroundings- staring at a beam of light coming through a window, or watching a fluttering curtain. When approached by parent or siblings for play, the baby usually responds by smiling and cycling her arms and legs.

As well as regular feeding times, This baby may have regular fussing periods, most often before bedtime. But the average baby is fairly adept at finding ways to soother herself if attention is not immediately available. She may suck on her fist turn onto her side, find a colorful toy or stuffed animal to watch or suck on her fingers to reproduce the peasant sensations of feeding. These fussing times can be trying, especially for parents who have only a limited amount of evening time to play with their child. But an average baby is basically even tempered and in return for the care and stimulation you give her, she will reward you with gratifying smiles, gurgles, and playful kicks.

Basic types of infant temperament Part-II

If you wish to determine your own child’s temperamental style for comparison, simply observe him carefully during your every day activities and note his general mood and reactions. Your baby may fall squarely into one of the three patterns outlined here or may combine traits from all three into a hybrid style all his own.

 A parent who is unprepared to deal with a particularly active or quiet baby will at times feel frazzled and wary, or guilty and inadequate. Different children elicit different responses from their parents, and it is quite likely that preconceived notion of child rearing will crumble when put to the test. The thought to keep uppermost in mind is that each child regardless of general personality type is in the end an individual, with a unique mix of weaknesses and strengths. Accepting your child as such, appreciating and encouraging positive qualities as you under stand and help the youngster cope with shortcomings; can be as enriching an experience for you as it is for your child.

Basic types of infant temperament Part-I

It is nearly impossible to define what constitutes “normal behavior” for a baby. Every parent to be has visions of a cuddly, devoted infant who, though fussy at times, is generally wide eyed and smiling. But infact, the spectrum of normal behavior can be quite broad and the reality quite surprising for parents.  I have had the opportunity to talk with many parents and observe many babies. During these encounters, I discovered over and over that when they were faced with a child whose temperament was completely different from their own, or from what they had expected it to be, they needed reassurance that their baby’s behavior fell within the acceptable range.

Described here are behavioral profiles of three infants at the age of two months- the time at which many babies settle into a routine. While their personalities differ in many ways, all three are healthy and very normal. The first, I call the average baby: this child is generally alert, comfortable and content. The second, the quiet baby, tends to be watchful and subdued. And the third, the active baby, is a tiny dynamo, usually inconstant motion. When judged by their responses to routine care and handling most babies seem to fall into one of these three basic temperamental types.

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